FAR AWAY MOM
When you’re a mom, the hardest you could ever imagine to happen to is to be far from them. Leaving your child for a day because you have work to do is a painful thing working moms endure, specially if they’re on business trips. Missing a momentous occasion of your kid’s life is a thing moms would never want to happen. But what can you do? Mom needs to work as hard as dad because you got needs now, you’re growing up. Your wants become more and more expensive and selective. If it doesn’t come your way, you become disappointed but not show them at all. But despite that, they know that you feel sad, and it hurts them more, thinking they were not able to give you what you want, even more so with your needs. Now, picture all that, but imagine having to do that for 10 years and your mom is in Kuwait. Hard right?
OFW’s are dubbed modern day heroes by some Filipinos, and i guess it’s true. Their remittances mean good news to our local economy.they endured many things being their. Being far from their kids is a gut-wrenching experience they wish they never had. But money is a need now. No matter how much you say love is the only thing you need to survive, money will always be a thing you need to live. That’s the only reason our moms (yes, i know that their are also dads their) are working that far away. They want to provide us a better life, probably even better than what they have. A mother once told me, “If ang akong anak mangayu ug burger, then burger akong ihatag, dili bananacue.” (If my kid asks for a burger, I’ll give him a burger, not a bananacue.) It touched me. A mother would remove restrictions just because of how much she loves her kids, and yes, she’s an OFW.
Long distance motherhood is a trend now, compared to years ago. Before, you could hear your moms voice once a week, if you’re lucky. It’s hard to grow up without a mom around but you learn to accept and be contented with the letters she sends to you and your sister. You become less wanting of material objects because you think, if you stop asking for stuff, she would go home because she doesn’t need to make money anymore. Childlike, it is, but a child would think like that. It’s so simple that it might just work, might. Good thing we have better technology now. You can talk to your mom whenever you want, where ever you go.
When your mom can’t be with you on your birthday, or recognition days, you feel sad but proud, proud that despite her being far from you, far from guiding you though life personally, you somehow got your act together and be a good person, with some rough edges but good nonetheless. Though there are still times where you get really, really, really jealous when you see a complete family, enjoying each others company. In those moments, you start to wish your mom was around you. You start to miss her more when that happens. You miss her scolding you for breaking something or taking care of you when your sick. If you still have a good relationship with your mom despite her being an OFW, then be thankful. Not all of us can maintain a good relationship with our mom due to these conditions.
Imagine, for 10 years, you missed most of your kid’s big days, birthdays, vacations, Christmas’, New Year’s. Somewhere along the way, you end up still awake despite it’s already midnight, wishing you’re mom would just knock on your door, ready to greet you in person a very happy birthday, and give you a big hug. But despite that strong wish, some wishes just never come true when you want them too. Reality strikes, and it hurts a lot. BUT, despite that hurt, you realize that your mom is there, all alone without a family or even a loved one, how much it must hurt for them missing your big days, birthdays, vacations, Christmas’ & New Year’s, how much it hurts them to wake up to the same thing over and over again as if their in a dream of vicious cycles, how much guilt they are feeling when they left you at home crying with your dad and sis. When you think of all those things, heavy stuff become lighter. You know she’s coming back, maybe not as soon as you want her to, but she’ll be back. And when she does, you can proudly talk about your achievements, achievements that are all for her, achievements that proves that all her sacrifices are not in vain.
Yup, that’s what my mom is living though right now. Despite coming home from time to time, I still miss her. The first she went to work in Kuwait was back when i was was still in 4th Grade and my little sis was kindergarten. She kinda left we were still at school. Couldn’t sleep at all for days. I sometimes cried myself to sleep because I already miss her so much.
To all the OFW kids out there, say “I LOVE YOU MOM” from time to time, if not everyday. Those words can just lift their sprits up. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY MOM!